I tend to pace when I think. I’m not really sure when this habit took root, or what it’s cause was., Nonetheless, it has held true for as long as I can remember.
One afternoon, I found myself pacing in the front yard, talking a mile-a-minute to my poor father who struggled to keep up with my rambling on the other end of the phone. I was facing a major life decision; a huge career change that would have lasting consequences for my personal and professional life.
Energetically, I fell to outlining the problem for my father, describing in detail the potential pitfalls associated with either decision. After listening for quite some time, my father responded in his usual calm demeanor, “Matt, it seems to me that you understand well what you do not want your life to be like. What I have yet to hear you tell me is what you do want your life to be like.”
Fear and love are two of the most powerful human motivators, each boasting a method of achieving its goal that is the opposite of the other. Fear motivates by causing us to want to move away from, or avoid, an undesirable outcome; such as unhappiness or pain. In contrast, love motivates by causing us to want to move toward or embrace a desired outcome…alternatively such as happiness or abundance.
It is a simple human truth that all too often we choose fear instead of love as our primary motivator when wrestling with life’s biggest decisions. However, it does not logically follow that running away from that which you want to avoid will naturally result in running toward that which you want to embrace. In fact, if you choose to make the biggest decisions in your life based upon what you want to avoid, you may very well find yourself somewhere that you never intended to be, embracing something that you never would have embraced had you been looking forward in love, instead of backward in fear.
If you want to make a difference in your life, then let God help you discover what you love, so that together you can walk toward the life that God has had in mind for you from the very beginning. You may have to move toward that life one step at a time, but the end result will be well worth the journey.